Life has a way of teaching us lessons when we least expect it, often through the experiences that touch us most deeply. I’ve been thinking about the importance of reciprocity in relationships—whether romantic or platonic. It’s something we all understand in theory, but it becomes much clearer when we experience the pain of unreciprocated kindness.

I was involved with someone who, despite my constant presence and care, remained emotionally distant. I poured my time, energy, and affection into our relationship, hoping that my efforts would at least be acknowledged. But as time passed, it became obvious that these feelings weren’t mutual.

What hurts the most isn’t the lack of reciprocity, but the unbearable stillness of unspoken words and unclear intentions. They couldn’t, or perhaps aren’t capable of grasping what’s true inside their heart space. My heart broke, not just because I felt alone, but from the realization that I had given so much of myself to someone who could not offer even the simplest gift of honesty.

This has shown me the vital importance of giving back in relationships. They can’t be a solitary endeavor; they need mutual respect, open communication, and, above all, reciprocity. To simply be present is not enough—there must be a harmony, a balance of giving and receiving that honors the essence of our human nature.

Kindness is a beautiful thing, but it should never be taken for granted or used. We all deserve to receive as much as we give. And we must remember that our time, our energy, and our emotions are precious, and deserving of care and consideration.

To anyone who finds themselves in a similar place, hold this close: you are deserving of someone who cherishes your kindness, who speaks truth with grace, and who returns the love and care you so freely give. Never settle for less. Your heart deserves to be met with the same tenderness and respect that you offer to others.